It doesn't always feel like that but it's an important distinction for building confidence. Focusing on what we do instead of who we are makes our confidence and self worth conditional. Dr. Chantale Lussier is a mental skills consultant who works with athletes and high performing individuals. She joined the Learn from a Leader series to share this insight about developing confidence.
Here's one way you can catch yourself in the act of conditional self-worth: "I am" vs. "I did."
I did x,y,z at work.
I am proud of how I showed up to do the job.
I did not get the new job.
I am pleased with how my interviews went.
You won't always be happy with the outcomes. You won't always feel good, but if you can force yourself to think about the difference between "I did" and "I am" you''ll have better self-awareness of what's driving your confidence.
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